Friends with benefits.....what do you think?

Friends with benefits, f*ck buddies, booty calls....whatever you wanna call it, do you think those types of "friendships" are a good thing or do you think its not such a good thing? Personally, I think that it could be good as long as there is open communication and a mutual understanding between both people. Its a no strings attached mutual benefit to both people and if open communication exist then there should not be any drama. On the other side of things, it may not be so good if one starts to develop feelings for the other and the other doesn't feel the same. There is always that risk of someone developing feelings. So in my opinion, Open communication, honesty, a mutual understanding, and an ability to keep emotions in check is necessary. I think Open Honest Communication has to exist and without that there will be problems eventually. What do you guys think? Im curious, I get mixed answers from my offline friends and I want to know what people online think about the topic. Oh yeah one more thing, both people should be single and uninvolved with anyone else. FWB while involved with someone is cheating unless you happen to be in an open relationship.

If both parties know its just to release sexual tension and there isn't anything really involved but just lust, then no there's nothin wrong with friends with benefits...

Situations like this involve mixed feelings and attachments which leads to confusion, anger, and jealousy (if your friend your're sleepig with is sleeping with someone else). And sometimes, friends get so comfortable with each other that they think its okay not to use protection. Which may cause stds. (Some people have more than 1 friend with benefits) Its okay to have friends like that, but it shouldnt be an everyday thing. There are its downfalls.

Personally, I don't think this type of relationship could work out unless it's just for a short time thing. Usually one of the two develops feelings for the other and that more than complicates things as one party will want to be something more than just a friends with benefits and the other will usually be happy in their current situation.

yeah i think booty calls are cool =D .. as long everyone knows that it's only for booty and nothing else. wanna be my booty call? =D

Sui_Fei wrote: yeah i think booty calls are cool =D .. as long everyone knows that it's only for booty and nothing else. wanna be my booty call? =D

Haha....check your inbox for the answer....dats all Imma say.....

Purifico wrote: Personally I can't see why anyone would want to degrade themselves that far. for heavens sake, control yourselfs and stop worring so much about sex, it's a sacred thing. something shared between two lovers, not a damn past-time.

I respect your opinion. Here is mine there is nothing degrading about a mutual agreement between two people to have sex....its degrading when you are talking about having sex with someone in exchange for something or situations like that. I understand it is something special that does happen between two people who love each other. For me, I think that when you have sex with someone you are in love with, its not the act of sex that makes it special, its the love you have for one another that makes it special and that is what makes it different from just having casual sex. Its just simply a matter of personal choice....period.

mz_shawtie216 wrote: mschocolate1 wrote: Purifico wrote: Personally I can't see why anyone would want to degrade themselves that far. for heavens sake, control yourselfs and stop worring so much about sex, it's a sacred thing. something shared between two lovers, not a damn past-time. I respect your opinion. Here is mine there is nothing degrading about a mutual agreement between two people to have sex....its degrading when you are talking about having sex with someone in exchange for something or situations like that. I understand it is something special that does happen between two people who love each other. For me, I think that when you have sex with someone you are in love with, its not the act of sex that makes it special, its the love you have for one another that makes it special and that is what makes it different from just having casual sex. Its just simply a matter of personal choice....period. i agree with you trina. sex with someone that is a friend is just sex. sex with someone you love well thats making love.. big difference. when ppl realize that maybe it wont be so taboo.. and also also just make sure ur safe from pregnancy and std's i think u can have friends with benefits. but it has to have the understanding that it is just sex.. but also that its low key and discrete.. and done with respect between both parties. you also have to have a pretty strong friendship to withstand such acts. cause if u dont u mind as well just have booty call with someone not so close cause it could turn ugly. jus my 2 cents

There ya go....thats it in a nutshell. Thats exactly what Im tryna say! Thanks so much!

Well yeah, it's not a bad thing if the two people agree that it's just strictly sex and no strings attached. However, in the long run, both might develop feelings for each other and that "relationship" might turn out better than a normal relationship...if that makes sense...Also, if the people are mature enough to handle the fact that it's just sex and nothing else, then they should be mature enough to handle their feelings, but there's nothing with FWB, that's what friends are for! lol

tori wrote: Well yeah, it's not a bad thing if the two people agree that it's just strictly sex and no strings attached. However, in the long run, both might develop feelings for each other and that "relationship" might turn out better than a normal relationship...if that makes sense...Also, if the people are mature enough to handle the fact that it's just sex and nothing else, then they should be mature enough to handle their feelings, but there's nothing with FWB, that's what friends are for! lol

It makes perfect sense its definately a possibility.

theres a difference to booty call, friends with benefits
than being in love and in a relationship type of sex.

it's the feeling

its better when you are in love and its much fun.